JCM: Masturbation: Controlling the seemingly uncontrollable!

Monday, September 14, 2015

Masturbation: Controlling the seemingly uncontrollable!

c) Framework of Masturbation Journal.

Aside from the food and sleep journal, this one provides valuable insight. Keep a journal with details of the incident on instances of being tempted to view porn or masturbate (or whatever habit it may be, to establish the pattern, and to be aware of a plan of action on how to prevent them in the future.

For example, during late meeting or appointment that might run past 7-730pm, contact the people involved ahead of time and let them know the cut-off time that is 7:00PM

10. Obey them persistently.

This is not about repressing and deprivation of sexual desires as they are built into the very fabric of ones being. It’s about abundance and benefits and high energy lifestyle. Increasing the willpower is the only way out to control that desire.

There is no permanent solution because 10 years from now, the body will still react the same way to sleep deprivation, junk food, high fat diets, etc. 10 years from now, the pineal gland in the brain will still begin to release chemicals and hormones at sundown to prepare for sleep. 10 years from now putting oil in the body will still do real damage. There are no quick fixes, pills, powders, or secret shortcuts. This world has its media and programs in place to rob one’s vitality, energy, and satisfying life of self-respect in exchange of the power of wealth.

It’s very tempting to boast of success in being freed from this but instead of bragging one should be considering about empowering questions like:

a. How long do I want to experience these graces?

b. What am I doing to ensure that I don’t lose these graces?

c. What structures and means am I installing in my life to keep these graces?

d. What patterns am I now forming to make this lifestyle simpler?

CAUTION:

On the journey to willpower and liberty from addiction, dangerous obstacles are expected. They are the nice people whose best intentions are to do something that will weaken willpower, defenses, and give up advancement. It’s easy to say no to a drug dealer offering cocaine but it’s tough to say no to moms, husband, child, girlfriend, colleague, friend etc. when they’re demanding like:

1. Staying up late on the phone as measurement of love.

2. Eating that cake, pasta with lot of cheese to celebrate something (remember to eat a lot of clean carbohydrates before their temptation, it’s not their cup of tea to offer a huge mango, smoothie or beans & rice)

3. Keeping up late to hang out together or play games

4. Eating out at a restaurant that does not serve good clean carbs and vegan food

Take note that nice people are sincere but they are sincerely wrong. Desired self control must not be compromised; the more disciplined one can be, the more attractive one may become. When others see the benefits experienced, significant others start to be curious and learn towards the end. Loving these significant others is by showing the good example. When people do offer something that compromises discipline, just politely refuse with a smile, to win people at the same time, to be an attractive example, to show a lifestyle that is irresistible.

In conclusion, masturbation, pornography, and other habits are physical and they have physical causes and physical solutions. For lasting self control it is important to address emotional, mental, and spiritual factors but neglecting the physical aspect guarantees failure.

"It is pitiable to watch the struggles of a conscientious young man who very much wishes to be good, yet whose bodily desires are making of his fight a tragedy, when all the time the thing that stands in his way is a very imperfect body, one that carries waste of such character as to impose continually on his mental and spiritual parts a handicap that is all but insuperable" - Dr. William Howard Hay in Health through food.

One probably was schooled during her/his childhood and teenage years in the public fool system spending a lot of time watching cartoons, TV and movies that are scientifically designed to fool. All the adults around in one's life may have taught their siblings to eat dead animals and milk because it is “good even though they now all have cancer, heart disease, this disease, that disease, and are fat and sick all the time. Birthdays are probably celebrated every year with a “birthday” overeating on refined sugar, hydrogenated oil, more cow pus, mammary excretions, Red 40 lake, monosodium glutamate, and brominated vegetable oil. After which, the doctor are waiting to heal ailment brought by negligent choice. Science says masturbation is unhealthy, in short, the same with these foolish choices at homes taken while growing up.

Learn how to control mind and body otherwise others will. Take responsibility that this dirt is in the mind and it needs to be washed out. Start thinking. Start re-evaluating a new belief and why. Embrace something that works and listen only to something that gives the desired result. Read. Ask Questions. The thoughts and neurons in the brain are like pathways on the grass lawn. Old paths left will re-grow with grass and disappear and in new ways new paths will appear and become strong. Only Jesus achieved the result of coming back from the dead. Nobody and and not even a single ideology can match that result. He’s invincible. By listening to Him through the Scripture, result is just a breath away.

"The tempted one must understand the true strength of the will. This is the central power in the nature of man - the power of decision, of choice. Everything depends on the right action of the will. God gives human the power of choice; it is ours to exercise....Through the right exercise of the will, an entire change may be made in the life. By yielding up the will to Christ is befriending with the Divine power.

Spend time thinking about personal want to get a life’s vision and make it clear. Set aside at least 10 minutes every week or sometimes every day to relax and start thinking about the future, to know what has to be done today to get that something that is desired to achieve later.

Besides, science has constantly echoes that those who believe themselves successful are the most likely to fall and have the worst self control issues. "We do not rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training."

Archilochus, Greek Soldier, c.650BC

Getting married is a serious answer to stop masturbation. It's quite surprising that marriage is not recommended more often but it is the natural and most obvious answer to fulfilling sexual desire. Marriage is not always perfect and does often face many problems but those problems are not as bad as an addiction to masturbation. "Now to the unmarried and to widows, I say: it is a good thing for them to remain as they are, as I do, but if they cannot exercise self-control they should marry, for it is better to marry than to be on fire." (1 Corinthians 7:9)

Masturbation has so much power because it’s kept in the dark and surrounded by myth, mystery, and misconception. Self-control is something worthy to be obtained at any cost giving the option for a retreat can be significant. It could also be tempting to be angry and blame all the people and teachers that fed all the junk that led to false values. Blame and resentment don’t increase one’s cash flow either so forgive them and move on. Encountering failure is natural which has to be taken as a treasure container of valuable feedback and information. Look at it as something with a purpose to be smart and build uncompromising commitment to maximum self-control.

At the time, the Babylonians had been invading different kingdoms and peoples to expand their empire. One of their captured slaves Daniel was forced to eat the slave food (defiled meat – offered to deities/idols) but the latter refused to even it endangered his life but rather remained firm as vegetarian, and that’s self-control (Daniel 1:8. As a result of his firmness, it was so miraculous that a slave turned to be a co-ruler over Babylon, one of the most powerful empires the world had at the time, and whose achievement has even been affirmed by Jesus Himself (Matthew 24:15).

Everybody needs self-mastery which is a long and exacting work. One can never deem it as acquired once and for all. It presupposes renewed effort at everyone’s stages of life. The strength necessary can be more extreme in particular phases, such as when the personality is being developed during childhood and adolescence.(1 Titus 2:1-6)

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