Parenting can be stressful and children often do things that make
parents angry, dissatisfied, or apprehensive. Sometimes, harsh parenting and
positive parenting styles take place jointly in families.
The issues linked with physical punishment are visible, but even parents
who never fantasize of beating their children may still fall back on yelling
when pushed to their limit to get them to stop doing undesirable things.
Yelling usually develops as children behave badly causing the parents to
react with harsh verbal discipline. On
the other hand, children respond with worsening behavior triggering the parents
to intensify their yelling and criticism. Towards the end, this cycle spins
uncontrollably.
Harsh Verbal Discipline (HVD) can
take several forms: verbal intimidation by shouting or yelling, getting
attention by swearing or cursing at the child, or by humiliation by calling the
child names like stupid or indolent.
Continuous yelling[1] at the children by parents
can permanently affect their mental health and ruin their peace of mind. It
works on the child’s confidence and capabilities once she/he is yelled at,
causing a lot of stress on the mind and be isolated. Hence, mental peace is
affected which results into mental disorders.
Major lifestyle
disorder of the children may cause recurrent disappointment to parents
With revolutionizing times and various gadgets provided by technological
mileage, kids’ healthy expressions turn to be compromised. Children are
strongly attached with electronic gadgets and speak less than interacting with
people around. As a result, children develop behavioral problems, as they use
the physical attributes very restrictedly. Even with little instructions, they
feel irritated. On the other side, he/ she expects everyone to follow her/his
commands. Therefore even conversation appears as yelling for few such kids.
In such situations children try to suppress their feelings, needs and
requirements, and forget to react properly with the people around them. This
can become a major life style disorder as the physical activity is totally
zeroed down. If these are not rectified with timely behavioral therapies, they
can also result into major psychological disorders. Henceforth, it is important
to understand how yelling can affect the mental health of a child.
So what are the consequences of yelling at children when they misbehave?
Does it bring their behavior to be better? How does it make them feel about
themselves? Is it less harmful than hitting or spanking? Take the following cautions
if you’re into Harsh Verbal Discipline (HVD) as parents:
Unpleasant Effects of
Yelling to Children
Children can lose their ability to think once chronically yelled at.
Yelling can cause sense organs to be insensitive that they cannot enjoy
any kind of feelings. This is true to me
based on experience because I remember an occasion in my twenties when a friend
of mine called my attention for being like this because I could not articulate
my feelings in spite of the cheerfulness of the children in a children's village.
It can develop nervousness.
It can result to speech
disability and stammering.
It affects the children’s ability to express their feelings.
It affects their courage to say “NO”, and submit themselves to any kind
of maltreatment inaudibly.
It increases their heart beat and also causes palpitations.
They always wear a frightful expression on their face brought by fear to
confront yelling.
It causes the children’s absence of enthusiasm and initiative to do
their task.
They can appear inattentive most of the times.
It can also result into suicidal tendencies in children. In fact, two of us in the family, my younger
brother and I had confided of this tendency when we were children because of
this issue on childhood rearing.
They cannot certainly not live a peaceful life. They are scared for
their every act and will lead an introverted life. Gradually such kids who grow
into their teens will show signs of anti-social personalities. In fact, my
youngest sister has not been able to develop her confidence on building a
career for herself although she finished her culinary, and has been aloof to
people until now.
These children when become adults will indulge in criminal acts, lead a
restless life and haunt people in the society.
Gradually, yelling can also result into hallucinations and wreck their
confidence levels indefinitely. Kids who are intruded to such levels can never
redeem their confidence in their lifetime. Thus, it is significant to help
children come out from physical or mental abuse to immediately stop it. Parents
or adults who are unable to stop yelling at the child need to visit a
psychologist and change their personality disorder before it gets too late, to
save children and reestablish their childhood happiness.
Harsh verbal discipline[2] is often associated with
increased conduct or behavior problems, increased levels of aggression, and
interpersonal problems in children. When parents violently yell at their
teenagers, the teens feel rejected and disliked. These feelings have a strong
negative effect on a teen’s views of their world, family and social
relationships. It makes them feel that they do not have the love and support of
significant people in their lives.
When parents act harshly towards their children, the teens tend to
become angrier, more irritable and more quarrelsome. Instead of feeling
cherished, the teen commonly becomes doubtful of her/his angry parents and
feels the need to secure him/herself. This basically causes to bad behavior.
Harsh verbal discipline also fuels depression, forming a belief in their
minds that they are as “worthless,” or “second-rate,” as their parents’ harsh
criticism might imply. The teens turn to be exceedingly self-critical and acquire
negative self-images and low self-esteem. Consequently, this can be the root of
a pattern on poor choices of peers and behavior.
Conclusion:
Sometimes, positive and harsh parenting styles occur together in
families. The former expresses warmth, comfort, concern and affection towards
their children and are responsive to their physical and emotional needs, which encourage
the children to interact more with their parents and to give back the feelings
of warmth and love.
Nevertheless, as unveiled by a research, even when children sensed their
parents as generally supportive and loving, the effect of harsh words remain as
strong as children who do not feel consistently loved by their parents.
The same study reveals that the higher the level of parental harsh
verbal discipline at age 13, the more conduct problems the children show a year
later at age 14, regardless if the harsh discipline comes from mothers or
fathers. The negative effects of harsh verbal discipline cannot be moderated by
parental warmth.
Therefore harsh verbal discipline is not only ineffective but actually
makes things worse and creates potentially long-lasting psychological problems
for the children and damages parent-child relationships.
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